Monday, October 20, 2014

I'm not your friend

Yesterday afternoon I told my eldest son (Z) I wasn't his friend.

He was mad (he is a redhead after all, so being angry isn't a new thing around here). He had been playing lego with his younger brother, but his brother wasn't "doing it right" and now Z wanted me to step in and build some type of ship from Star Wars.

But guess what? I didn't want to. And so I didn't.

I told him no.

He grumbled and complained and kicked up a fuss.

I told him no again.

He whined and cried and destroyed his already built lego creation.

I told him no a third time. I reminded him that I had already spent a good chunk of the day focused on them. I had taken them to swimming lessons (that I paid for), spent an hour in the freezing cold at the park while they played, pushed them both on swings, rode bikes and scooters, chalked on the driveway, fed them at least 8,000 meals (ok, that's an exaggeration, more like 1,500 meals and snacks because, BOYS), and helped them both make masks so they could look like Batman. I was tired, and I still had dinner to make, work of my own to do, a sick cat to attend to and a floor to sweep.

It wasn't that I needed time "alone", I just needed time to hear my own thoughts, get dinner on the table and breathe. Also, I don't like playing lego.

But my explanation of why I couldn't build some Star Wars ship thingy didn't fly with Z. And he threw an even bigger, redheaded tantrum. He said I was "THE WORST MOM EVER" and that I was "SO MEAN TO HIM ALWAYS". He crossed his arms and kicked his feet and railed against a mom who would dare to not drop it all to build him a lego ship.

So I looked at him and told him "I'm not your friend". Because I'm not.

I'm his mother. I love him more than anything and would do anything to help him, but building Star Wars ship thingys actually isn't something I am obligated or desire to do.

Because keeping my kids "entertained" is not my job as a parent.

But that is where I have previously failed as a mom.

I used to equate my kid's happiness with a lack of boredom. It didn't matter if I had dishes, dinner, or work- if either boy needed me to play, I was there. I created games, I looked up Star Wars thingys on Google so I could build them, I played so many rounds of Jenga you wouldn't even believe! And then I would stay up until midnight getting all the stuff done in my house or work life that I had ignored because I had a bored(ish) kid.

It wasn't until this year that I realized how wrong I was.

Listen, it's not that playing with your kids or helping them out is wrong- it isn't...in fact it's an awesome thing do to. But what I had been teaching my boys by constantly dropping EVERYTHING to be their "playmate" is that they are not responsible for their own entertainment (or "happiness") and that their mom is their friend. And both of those lessons are not ones I wish to teach my sons.

I am not my kids friend. I am their parent. I am here to love the heck out of them and care for their physical, spiritual and emotional needs. I am here to listen to their joy and pain. I am here to comfort, scold, direct and encourage. I am here to love them unconditionally but reprimand (yes, even yell) when they are wrong. I am here to teach them and facilitate experiences that will help them grow into productive adults.

But I am not their friend.

I am their parent.

And what a disservice I have been doing by allowing them to think otherwise. What a disservice to them, as future adults, to think of the person in authority as a buddy and someone who bends to their whims and desires with the snap of a finger.

And so I have began to remind them- often in the middle of a tantrum, but then more calmly after the dust has settled- that I am not their friend. I am not responsible for neither their play time nor their creativity. I am not the root cause of their boredom and I am not responsible for their constant entertainment.

In the end, Z built his own version of a Star Wars ship thingy (I did look it up on my phone so he could try to replicate it, for what it's worth). My younger built a tower of blocks. Z eventually ambled over and said I wasn't THE WORST mom on earth (gee thanks), and I got dinner on the table.

It wasn't exactly a monumental moment in our house, or even a lightbulb moment for me, but rather a  (noisy, full of yelling and whining) reminder that being a parent is hard. But being a parent that falls into the "friend" category and caters to your child's every fancy is even harder.






Friday, October 17, 2014

Amazon Family

I love books. My kids love books (PHEW! I think every parent breathes a sigh of relief when their kids actually ask for books!).

And as much as I wish I could visit bookstores and libraries on a regular basis, our lives are already so busy that browsing the shelves for a new read (or for anything really) has often fallen to the wayside in favour of the convenience of browsing online.

And that's why I love Amazon. 

I'm sure you're familiar with the services that Amazon offers - books, DVDs, CDs - but they have recently launched a new platform that I am so excited to share with you!


Amazon.ca has launched Amazon Family. Amazon Family members will receive 20% off diaper subscriptions and Unlimited FREE Two-Day Shipping on eligible items with Amazon Prime. The membership program also provides new and expecting families with promotions and discounts, available exclusively for Amazon Family members. After a 30 day free trial, Amazon Family members will continue to enjoy those benefits as part of a Prime membership for the annual fee of CAD $79.   

Let's face it- parenting is so awesome but it isn't cheap! Amazon Family was created to offer families amazing price-points on all those essentials your family needs (I'm thinking diapers, toys, strollers, and more!) and even better they offer awesome advantages, including
  
  • 20% off diapers with a Subscribe & Save subscription.
  • Unlimited FREE Two-Day Shipping on millions of items with Amazon Prime, including strollers, high chairs, car seats and more.
  • Access to Amazon Family exclusive discounts and offers on key necessities, including items for the nursery, toys, newborn accessories, children’s books and more. 

Best? When you buy it, it's delivered to your door! The convenience, the prices, the one-stop-shop-from-home-in-your-pjs, all make it totally worth it!



And for me? Well, I opted to use my subscription to load up my emerging reader with books he could succeed in reading and my wee book lover with his favourite books (FRRRROOOOOOGGGGYYYYYYY!). I can safely say that the price points for all items were spot on (and I'm not just talking books!) and having my purchases dropped off at my door really made my life that much easier.


Make sure you visit Amazon Family today and compare their products and prices with the stores you're currently shopping at. I am sure you will be pleasantly surprised:)


Monday, September 29, 2014

Coffee Delivered To Your Door

How many times have you gone foraging in your kitchen, praying you'll find some coffee because you forgot to pick some up the last time you were at the store? I know it's not just me!

How many times have you wished there was a coffee delivery service that would deliver fresh coffee beans to your door? I know it's not just me! (also, I think I've wished there was a wine delivery service, and I am positive it's not just me!).

Enter Coast to Coast Coffee! They have recognized the need for a delivery service that brings the good stuff (or the 'nectar of life' as I call it) directly to your mail box. That's right: freshly roasted, Organic and Fair Trade coffees can now be ordered online and delivered to you- no matter where you live in Canada!

And the BEST PART? Delivery is FREE!!!!

What I love the most about Coast to Coast Coffee is that they are not only providing superior quality organic and fair trade coffees (roasted and shipped the same day you order for peak freshness), but they are offering convenience and quality at amazing prices

Having lived in a very rural town in Saskatchewan, I understand how hard it is to get really good coffee beans at a really good price. And even now that I live in a major city centre, I still struggle with finding a high quality coffee that I can brew and enjoy at home. 

Coast to Coast Coffee takes care of all those needs and they're Canadian to boot!

We ordered our first batch of coffee beans and had them in our mailbox within 3 days! Service, right?


How our beans arrived- freshly roasted and ready to be enjoyed!

And truthfully, the aroma of freshly ground coffee beans in the morning is a reason to get out of bed. Even better, fresh roasted coffee is naturally sweeter and higher in antioxidants than the stale, canned stuff you buy at the store.


Can you smell the delicious freshly ground coffee aroma through your screen?
 And the best part is that the coffee is REALLY REALLY REALLY delicious! We chose a medium roast for our first batch (yum!) but we are signing up for a SURPRISE ME! monthly delivery so that we receive a new origin and blend of coffee in our mailbox each and every month. 


Heaven in a cup!



Check out their offerings at www.coasttocoastcoffee.ca and try them out today! I can personally guarantee that you won't be disappointed!



Saturday, September 27, 2014

The New Gig

So, yes, I haven't been around. In fact, I haven't written since August.

But there is good reason, I promise.

And so, what has kept me from this space for about a month?

Well, I have a new job.


Yes, that's me! I am hosting a LIVE daytime television talk show! AHHHHHHHHHHH

Never in my wildest dreams would I have ever hoped for something like this in my life, but the opportunity appeared to audition, I just knew that I could not pass it up. Imagine my surprise when, after going in for a screen test, I got the gig.

So I have been absent learning how to read a teleprompter, using an IFB (earpiece for the control room to speak to me in), trying to tame my natural inclination to speak like a valley-girl circa 1980, and learning the ropes of live television (which, I have discovered, is never, ever smooth but always ends up looking amazing thanks to the magicians that work behind the scenes).

Phew.

And it has been crazy hard work, but oh my word, it has been the most fun I have ever had! I mean, I cannot believe that someone is LETTING me go on air for an hour each day and just have fun. I have never learned so much (or so quickly) but it really is a blast and I'm so lucky that I get to take over this maternity leave contract and spend the next year on television!

Here are a few of the awesome guests I've gotten to hang out with. (oh, and FYI, I have literally eaten something prepared by an executive chef at least 3 times a week. That's just the icing on the awesome sundae!)






What an awesome adventure I'm on! I'm getting to grow and learn, and do something I love! This is one of those times when #blessed is legit.